Why do so many learner drivers find driving to be difficult?
The answer to this may enable you to rise above the issues you may have with driving.
1. You Fear Change.
Let’s face it, no matter how you look at it, driving is one of the only things your parents can’t do for you and at some point you will have to have to stop being a passenger and make a CHANGE. It might seem like a big change, or a small one, but you are going to have to get off your butt and get out of your Comfort Zone.
Your sub-conscious, conditioned mind detests change and whenever you try to convince it, you must take into account that your sub-conscious functions as a survival mechanism that sees your driving attempts as seriously dangerous and it wants to protect you from harm. Unless you bypass this mechanism, all attempts at driving will fail. This is the part of you where “It freaks me out!” comes from ;o)
2. You Want Instant Results.
Today, we live in an instant gratification era and to prove a point, just watch how irritable people get when they have to wait 10 minutes at McDonalds. NOW, is what people have gotten used to, simple.
With driving, that would equate to roughly 5 lessons and then results should be clearly positive, right? Now let me ask you, how many things have you ever learned in 5 hours, to such a degree that you were able to consistently prove successful?
Many people get discouraged and give up when instant results are not forthcoming, forgetting that it takes proper alignment of energy to desires, that make attaining a goal a success.
Some things are just not possible on the Instant Scale and trying to rush or not taking the time to align your energy, you will actually have a much LONGER process.
3. You Give Up Too Soon.
Many, many people simply give up too soon. Partly, this is due to “needing” instant success and partly because temporarily getting something wrong is proof that you simply can’t do it, right? Then the Blame Game and “Yes, BUT…” starts normally. Either you blame the instructor, the car, the traffic, your bad hairday, your parents, Yourself….
Know this: Whatever you’re going to learn in life will see you getting it wrong many time before you start getting it right, then mostly right, and eventually, you’ll get it right more often that you’ll get it right….for starters. In order for any development in your driving skill to happen, you can’t give up, even when it “looks bad” and feels even worse.
4. You are not DOING, only TRYING.
Straight down the line I can tell you that “trying” is a cop-out and a sure measure of guaranteed failure. The absolute truth is that there’s no such thing as trying, there’s only DOING.
When you drive, either you Do or you DON’T, simple. “At least I tried” always follows failure, does it not? Results takes effort, and effort takes DOING, if you’re going to want to be successful and achieve your goal of driving. Only two things makes the difference - Reasons or Results. You can have what you want or reasons why you don’t. There’s no midway. People that start DOING are the ones that follow through until they achieve their goals, reach their dreams and desires. It’s not all that difficult, or is it?
5. You Focus on WHAT Instead of WHY.
Many, many people focus on WHAT they have to do to get a drivers licence instead of focussing on WHY they want it.
It’s really very simple. When you focus this way you’re sure to get demotivated and you will give up easily when it starts getting tough. You’ll start collecting reasons for not getting it, such as, how hot the sun is, how bad the rain is, how many rules there are, how many checks need to be done, how bad the traffic is, how stories you’ve heard makes it seem impossible, how retarded the K53 checks are, how instructors ask the impossible, how judgemental the examiners are…
You see where I’m going with this?
You simply have to stay focussed on the WHY - the benefits you want from having your licence, else you’ll only see an insurmountable obstacle that will tether you to failure.
Like I said - it’s simple. Just decide how serious you are about getting you licence. FORGET about what you have to DO to get it and just get on with it. Baby Steps will sort every thing in good time, when you follow through.
If you are not 100%, crystal clear on WHY you want what you do, then arrange a party with friends, beg for a lift to the party as a happy passenger, criticise their driving if you want, have a good time while you’re at it, but KNOW that it doesn’t help you at all if you have to pay Safe Cab a fortune to pick you up or ask your irritated Mom or Dad to fetch you at an ungodly hour…or God Forbid, drive home with an intoxicated friend fearing for your life knowing that you’ve got the longest ride ’cause you stay the furthest down the drop off route.
You STILL won’t have YOUR licence! Just keep on doing what you’ve been doing and you’ll get a 100% of what you’ve been getting. Not nice, I’ll bet.
Remember, you CAN CHANGE the pattern - question is: Do you really want to?
Only YOU know the answer for sure…
